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What fills you up and what drains you down?

The concept is so simple and obvious, yet it is so easy to overlook. All of us have  a certain finite emotional capacity or reserve. How do I know when I am reaching my limits? Life is full of so much coming at us in different directions. How do I know when I am getting overwhelmed and over-extending myself? How do I ensure I am in a healthy place to deal with all the demands on my time and energy? This 8 minute video by Wayne Codeiro gives some helpful
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Podcast #034: Life work balance?

We hear a lot about balancing life and work in our day and age. Wherever you look and whoever you talk to, getting the right balance in life is something many people are hungry for. With so many priorities and responsibilities in our lives this is becoming for many of us increasingly important and relevant. But what do we actually mean when we say we want balance in our lives? Do come and join my co-host Andrew Horton and I as we unpack this important subject. In particular we discuss:
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Are you growing, stagnating or decaying inside?

It would appear that change in some form or other is inevitable. Nothing stays the same. Whatever you focus on is either  growing, stagnating or decaying. All healthy organisms and organisations grow. The same can be said about us as human beings. We see growth most obviously in the physical world when we observe healthy babies physically grow into children, adolescents and eventually adults. However, other forms of growth are no where near as predictable. Intellectual, emotional, psychological and spiritual growth are much harder to predict. To put it  bluntly it
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Lessons on giving from Bill and Melinda Gates

They are the richest couple in the world with a fortune currently estimated at $90 billion. Since 1994 they have donated $35 billion to charity. The Gates Foundation that was launched in 2000 is the world’s largest charity with over $40 billion in funds.  But the following 25 minute TED talk by Bill and Melinda Gates is a fascinating insight into what it personally means to develop a healthy attitude to giving. Granted that none of us has access to the resources and expertise that the Gates have, but what
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Podcast #033: Practical ways to find joy through disappointment

Disappointment. We all experience it. We all know what if feels like. We have all at some time or other said and done things when disappointed with our circumstances or other people that we have later regretted. But what are healthy ways to handle disappointment in our lives? On this podcast I continue my conversation with the author John Hindley on his book, “Dealing With Disappointment: How To Know Joy When Life Doesn’t Feel Great“. (Our earlier conversation at Podcast #032 is here). Disappointment can so easily come to dominate
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How a higher perspective empowers you to handle disappointment

One important way to get a handle on disappointment in our lives is to be able to take a higher perspective. Somebody who understood this well was the author C. S. Lewis. In 1942 he wrote the book The Screwtape Letters that has since then been continuously in print. It has been adapted into plays, made into a comic book, and recorded as an audio drama by the actor John Cleese. The Hollywood Film company Fox owns the film rights, and Ralph Winter, best known for blockbusters like “X-Men” and “Fantastic
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Understanding the 3 dangers of disappointment

To be forewarned is to be forearmed. Disappointment is an experience we all go through at some time or other in our lives. While disappointment is a form of suffering, it is not the acute, dramatic, heart wrenching extreme painful form like sudden bereavement, or betrayal or torture or persecution. (For more on that type see here). Instead disappointment is more subtle and insidious. But it is just as challenging. Like a hidden cancer under the surface it can eat away and destroy our sense of joy or wellbeing. It is
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How do I make sense of my ego?

All of us struggle with the problem of ego. In the right amount ego is inherently positive and provides a healthy level of confidence and ambition. When ego works well it drives out insecurity, fear and apathy. But left unchecked, and this is where it is most obvious, it can get out of control. Ego can easily then become arrogance. When that happens it attacks our talents and abilities. This is either through overconfidence and giving the false illusion that we’re better than we actually are, or by robbing us of
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How to rise stronger when life takes you down

Life happens. When we’re the least prepared. Whether we like it or not. We’re going along minding our own business, and BAM! Something happens that knocks us off our feet. We lose not only the life we led, but also who we are, as we scramble to regain our footing. When Option A crumbles at your feet, how can you thrive in the midst of the pain? Maybe even because of it? Here are three important steps you can take to thrive when you’re left with Option B:…..
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In appreciation of my Mum

Mums- what could we do without them? My Mum recently turned 75. With my brother and our families we organised a  get together to appreciate and say thank you to her for all she has done and continues to do for us. In this last year Mum’s health has not been good following a fall in December 2016 leading to a fracture of her right shoulder and elbow with several weeks in hospital recovering from surgery. We are very thankful that she has pulled through this difficult time.   With that
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Podcast #031 How can I live with hope today?

Psychologists, psychiatrists, politicians and theologians may differ in their opinion on many things, But one thing they would all seem to agree on is the importance of hope. “Human beings can live about forty days without food, about three days without water, about eight minutes without air…but only for one second without hope.” Do join my co-host Andrew Horton and I as we discuss: Why hope in the true sense of the word is much more than wishful thinking, but instead a joyful expectation about the future. How we can
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What does it actually mean to be effective?

So what does it mean to be effective? In other words how do I ensure I get the right things done and am not just busy for the sake of being busy? Effectiveness (doing the right thing) has to come before efficiency (doing more things in less time). This is powerfully illustrated in the 8 minute video below: Here are some practical examples of this:
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Why making a decision can be so hard

Choices! Every day we have to make them. Over the last few decades the number of choices we have had to make has increased dramatically. And it can feel exhausting. The short 5 minute video below humorously and helpfully explains this: This issue of overwhelming choices has been exponentially increasing to have a dramatic impact on our often already busy and over-streteched lives. It was back in the 1990s that perhaps Peter Drucker first predicated this decision fatigue when he wrote: “In a few hundred years, when the history of
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What does it mean to live with intention?

I don’t know who originally said it, but apparently there are only 3 kinds of people in the world. Those who make things happen; those who watch things happen; and those who say, “What happened?”! As well as being somewhat amusing I am also struck by how insightful such a saying is about human nature. It is so easy to go with the flow of whatever is going on around us or get distracted by whatever is latest or loudest in our lives. And at certain times and seasons of
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Podcast #029: The literal end of the world?

What will happen at the end of time? How will the world end? How will our lives end? Where is history heading to? Is there any sense or coherence in this increasingly complex and challenging world that we live in? That is the subject of Hollywood movies and popular science fiction novels down the ages. Popular movies and novels can be great fun and escapism, but then you have to get on with the rest of life with all of its predictability and mundaneness. Could there be another narrative? Indeed,
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